Articles Posted in Divorce

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I am a big fan of alternative dispute resolution such as mediation and collaborative law. Lawyers in New York are guided by the Code of Professional Responsibility. When I am in my role as a mediator, however, I am not acting as a lawyer at that time. Although I am both a matrimonial / family law attorney and also a mediator, mediators do not have to be lawyers. To guide mediators, in 2005 The American Bar Association and the American Arbitration adopted standards of conduct. The purpose of this blog entry is to summarize these standards and how they might apply to a New York Divorce Mediation.

The first standard is the principle of self determination. What this means to is that the decisions in mediation are to be made by the parties to the case, not the mediator. The mediator’s role is to guide and educate about the different options to settle the issues. For example, the mediator can explain different options for child custody like shared custody, joint legal custody, sole custody and joint custody with spheres of influence. Please click around my website or other blog entries for more information about any of these topics.

The second standard is that the mediator should have the qualifications to be able to properly handle the mediation be it from education, experience or training. In the context of divorce and family law this means: having matrimonial and family law knowledge; understanding how conflict impacts families and children; mediation process training as well as experience; and the ability to see how diversity and backgrounds impact people and situations. Mediators should be able to answer questions and provide information about their qualifications to potential mediation participants. Continue reading ›

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Trials and hearings, in New York divorces, can be on the topics of grounds, custody, support and equitable distribution.  While the majority of cases settle prior to trial, many trials are still necessary on some or all of the issues.  Although other hearings are possible, such as on contempt or modifications of orders, the aforementioned are the most common.  All of the issues may be heard together or handled at different times.  For example, if grounds are disputed, a court may schedule a grounds trial right away since if grounds do not exist, then the rest of the divorce is a moot point as it cannot proceed.

Grounds are rarely an issue nowadays since the passage of the No-Fault law in 2010 which merely requires one party to the case to be able to swear that the marriage has been irretrievably broken for at least six months.  However, if a party insists on fault based grounds that are disputed, a trial might be necessary on those grounds if disputed.  As a New York City and Long Island Divorce Lawyer, I found myself in a grounds trial soon after the passage of the No-Fault law since the other side insisted on pursuing fault based grounds.  Another possible grounds trial could be on the issue if a party substantially complied with a separation agreement when divorces are sought based on the grounds that the parties have lived apart pursuant to a legal separation for at least one year.

So, what evidence is admissible at a divorce trial?  For the most part, these rules of evidence apply at most civil trials whether on a divorce, family court matter or otherwise.  In general, all relevant evidence is admissible, unless it should be excluded based on some rule of evidence.  Irrelevant evidence should not be admitted at trial if objected to by the opposing side or the trier of fact (judge).  Evidence that has a reasonable tendency to show or not show the existence of a fact necessary to the decision on a matter is relevant.  If a bit of evidence seems to be from a non-reliable source, usually it would still be deemed admissible, however it might not carry a lot of weight.  What value to give the evidence is for the court to decide.  However, even relevant evidence may be excluded if its probative value is substantially outweighed by the danger of unfair prejudice, undue delay or waste of time. Continue reading ›

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The law in New York does contain reasons to deviate from the guidelines amount of child support. The Child Support Standards Act contains a formula, based on income, that dictates what the presumptive amount of child support should be in each particular case.  The law also contains ten reasons that a deviation from the presumptive amount may be ordered.  The reasons may be used to justify an upward or downward departure from the guideline amount. New York State, New York City and Long Island Child Support Lawyers need to consider these reasons when their clients want more or less child support than it would appear that the guidelines would suggest.

The first is that a deviation can be ordered, after a consideration of the finances of each parent, and the children dictates that a different amount is appropriate.  Second, the physical or emotional health and a child’s aptitudes or special needs may suggest a deviation is appropriate.   The third consideration is the standard of living that the child would have lived under if the parental relationship or home remained intact, instead of dissolving.  Tax impacts to both sides are a reason that may be considered to deviate.  Non financial input that the mother or father will contribute to the care and wellness of a child is a permissible reason to deviate.

If either the father or mother has a need for additional education, that may be weighed when deciding if there is reason to deviate from the presumptive amount.  If the total gross income of either party is significantly less than the other parties’, it is one of the enumerated reasons to deviate from the guideline amount.  If the financial resources available to support children living with the payor or that he/she is supporting is less than the children in the subject case, and this support is not a deduction from the income of the non-custodial parent in the subject case, then the needs of these children may be considered when calculating the instant child support order.  Extraordinary visitation expenses (as long as the child is not on public assistance) or extended visitation expenses that significantly reduce the custodial parent’s expenses.  Finally, there is a catch all provision, that a court may order a deviation based on any other factor that it deems relevant. Continue reading ›

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This article is meant to provide some background about divorce and family law matters in the New York City borough of Queens, New York. As mentioned in prior blog entries, although the statutes are the same for everyone in New York State, there are different rules and procedures that change from County to County and even court room to court room. New York is made up of four Appellate Divisions.  Queens County happens to be located in what is called the Second Judicial Department and therefore the case law coming out of the Second Department is controlling for Queens County divorce and family law cases. The New York Court of Appeals is the highest court in New York. Therefore, case law from the New York Court of Appeals is controlling on Queens County as well as everywhere else in the State. Decisions from the three other judicial departments would be influential if the Second Department has not directly ruled on the matter. Although I practice all around the Long Island and New York City area, which includes both the First and Second Judicial Departments, my office and most of my cases are from areas located within the Second Judicial Department. This familiarity is helpful in my practice as a Queens County Family Law attorney.

Throughout my legal career, I have handled a great deal of cases in Queens County. Since my office is Nassau County, New York, conveniently bordering Queens, it is a short ride to the courts in Queens. Besides Nassau County, Queens and Suffolk are my highest volume geographic areas at this time. First I will discuss the Queens County Supreme Court, followed by information about the Queens County Family court.

Like everywhere else in New York, a person that wants to file a divorce case in Queens needs to use the Supreme Court. The Queens County Supreme Court is located at 88-11 Sutphin Boulevard Jamaica, New York 11435. Issues that arise for couples after a divorce (post-judgment) can be filed and dealt with at the Queens County Supreme Court. Supreme Court Justices are assigned cases that are filed in the Queens Supreme Court. Justices are elected Judges, but, Judicial Hearing Officers (who are usually former judges) may be assigned for trials or a hearing on one or all of the issues. The consent of the parties is usually obtained before sending it to a Judicial Hearing Officer since everyone has the right to have their cases heard in front of a Judge. In Queens, like every other County in New York, incidentally the only issues in a divorce that would go in front of a jury would be a grounds trial. Everything else would be decided by the Judge or a Queens Supreme Court Justice. Grounds trials, particularly, jury grounds trials are rare but they are a possibility. Continue reading ›

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Separation agreements, pre-nuptial agreements, post-nuptial agreements, and stipulations of settlement may largely contain the same contents, and serve a lot of the same purposes, but vary in the timing that they are made. One purpose is invariably to define the respective rights of each marital partner in the event of a dissolution of the marital partnership. As a divorce mediator, New York City and  Long Island divorce lawyer, marital agreements are a big part of my practice.

Pre-nuptial agreements are made prior to the marriage.  Post-nuptial agreements are made after the parties are already married.  Separation agreements are a form of a post-nuptial agreements but have the added element that the husband and wife may become legally separated after the execution of the document.  Stipulations of settlement of a divorce are made after a divorce case is filed to settle the issues necessary to be decided to get the parties divorced.

Pre-nuptial agreements can help couples enter into a marriage with the knowledge that  their rights have been defined in the unfortunate event that it doesn’t work out.  As a mediator, matrimonial and family law attorney, pre-nuptial agreements are an opportunity to work with a party or couples in love that could stay married forever.  The stress of the financial uncertainty that could result from a divorce can be removed.  Pre-nuptial agreements commonly identify how the property that the parties have already, going into the marriage, will be split up or retained as separate property, in case of divorce.  It can provide how much maintenance (alimony), if any, there will be upon a divorce.  Child custody, parenting time and child support matters become trickier to try to outline in a pre-nuptial agreement since a court always has discretion when it comes to what the custody and parenting time arrangements will be with a child.  Also, the dissolution of a marriage would in most instances qualify as a substantial change of circumstances to look at what custody and parenting time arrangements are, despite an earlier agreement, in the best interests of the children moving forward.  Still, the agreement could be used as a starting point on these issues and might prove influential if there is a dispute about the determination of the matter in the future. Continue reading ›

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Every location has different particularities that make handling family law and divorce cases somewhat different from County to County.   The Domestic Relations Laws and Family Court Act is the same for everyone in New York, but different rules and procedures might apply from Judge to Judge, courtroom to courtroom, and certainly from venue to venue. I handle cases all around the New York City area including Nassau and Suffolk County Long Island. I started my family law practice some years ago as a Suffolk County Family Law Attorney. My office is in Jericho, New York, where I work as a divorce mediator, litigator, and collaborative law lawyer. However, I reside in Suffolk County and enjoy the convenience and familiarity of handling cases in the Suffolk County courts. I have handled more Suffolk County cases than any other location. The purpose of this blog article is to relay information about family law and matrimonial cases in the Suffolk County Supreme Court and Suffolk County Family courts.

As I handle Nassau County, Queens, and New York City cases in addition to Suffolk County, I have seen some of the nuances of each area.  At times there is a choice of venue to file the case if the parties reside in different counties. Divorces may be filed in any county chosen by the Plaintiff, and as long as venue is not contested by either side, the case can be resolved in that County, provided New York State otherwise has jurisdiction.   A specific County might be selected as they are in the position to better expedite granting the divorce than a different venue. There are often considerations about whether to file a case in the Family Court or Supreme Court because the Suffolk County Family Court and Suffolk County Supreme Court in most instances have concurrent jurisdiction, after a divorce, to hear ongoing issues about child custody, child support, parenting time, and maintenance.

Divorces are handled in the Supreme Courts of the various New York Counties. Usually depending on the residences of the parties, a divorce filed in Suffolk County Supreme Court is either assigned to be heard at the court in Central Islip, New York or Riverhead, New York. The addresses are 400 Carleton Avenue Central Islip, NY 11772 and 235 Griffing Avenue Riverhead, NY 11901. Post judgment divorce issues may also be filed and handled at the Suffolk County Supreme Court. Cases are assigned to Supreme Court Justices that are elected Judges, however, the parties can agree for the case, or one of the issues in the case, to be heard by a Judicial Hearing Officer for different reasons such as to expedite the time frame of resolution. Mediation services can be ordered, usually only by agreement, for which the parties need to pay. Since I am a Suffolk County resident, I enjoy the convenience of appearances in Suffolk County Courts. Continue reading ›

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The Long Island contingent of the New York Association of Collaborative Law Professionals has been making a push to start implementing streamlined protocols in order to further save time and expenses to divorcing couples that have chosen to work collaboratively. Collaborative law is an alternative to litigation, but unlike mediation, each party has the representation of trained professionals that make up the team in this non-adversarial divorce process. Typically, the team includes each party having their own collaboratively trained attorneys, divorce coaches, and one financial neutral although the necessary professionals can vary from case to case. As a New York City, Long Island and Nassau County Collaborative Divorce Lawyer, I believe in the collaborative law process. I am pleased that we are now using the streamlined initiatives here on Long Island. I want to use this blog entry to reiterate why collaborative law is the gold standard for divorces and as an opportunity to talk about the streamlined collaborative divorce process.

Collaborative law is the gold standard for divorces. Everyone works together to stay out of court and to work with a team of well trained professionals equipped to deal with the legal, financial and emotional aspects of dissolving a marriage. Parents put their children first in the process. The process is designed to help a couple safely and sensibly transition into two independent households. Collaborative law is a moral and honorable way to divorce with integrity. Most importantly, the process works to resolve issues and get couples to agree.

The streamlined process essentially is broken down into four phases. Phase one is putting the team together. Phase two is information gathering. Phase three is brainstorming options and reaching agreements. Phase Four is moving on with the rest of your life, your new story! Continue reading ›

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After agreeing upon the terms of a settlement in a divorce mediation, the drafting attorney usually will put together the settlement agreement. It might be in the form of a separation agreement or a stipulation of settlement. Since I am a New York City area, Suffolk County and Nassau County divorce lawyer and divorce mediator, I have always been the drafting attorney on my mediated cases. It is recommended that each party take that settlement agreement and have it reviewed with their own attorneys. The purpose of the review attorneys is to make sure that each party understands their rights, understands what they are signing and that what they agreed upon is in fact in the agreement. This is the person that could give them the legal advice they need.

Everyone that goes through alternative dispute resolution has questions. Would I do better if I went to court? Is this a fair agreement? People that go through collaborative law or litigated cases receive the advice and representation of an attorney throughout the process. Collaborative law, for those, who have not heard about it, is another non-adversarial way to resolve matrimonial and family law cases. I like to think of collaborative law as a method somewhere in between mediation and litigation however it is non-adversarial, like mediation. Feel free to click around my blog, website or call to talk about collaborative law. This blog entry is geared more so about divorce mediation.

The divorce mediator’s role is as a neutral to help people settle their differences and formulate an agreement to move on with their lives. When I shift gears into my role as drafting attorney my job is to ensure that the understanding that the parties made is put into proper form to be a legally binding agreement that settles the case. Usually, in the case of a divorce, that means to settle all of the issues that a Judge would have to decide had the case proceeded to litigation and a trial. In this blog I will go through topics that I include in my settlement agreements when acting as a drafting attorney. For each topic I will touch upon some of the considerations that a review attorney, which is sometimes my role, can address with their clients to make sure their client is armed with the legal information they would need to making a knowing, intelligent, and voluntary agreement for their divorce or other family law issue that is mediated. Continue reading ›

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Each County has some particular nuances that make practicing divorce and family law a little different in each venue.  Although most of the same laws are applicable throughout the state, besides differences in geography, each court, as well as each judge has their own rules and procedures.  As a New York City, Long Island and Nassau County Family Law Attorney, I have had the opportunity to see geographic differences in my practice.  Although I do cases all around the area, my highest volume at this time is in Nassau County.  The purpose of this blog entry is to provide information about divorce and family law practice in the Nassau County Supreme Court and Nassau County Family Court.
Separation proceedings, divorces and post judgment divorce proceedings are the types of cases that we mostly handle at the Nassau County Supreme Court.  The Supreme Court of Nassau County has an address of 100 Supreme Court Drive Mineola, New York 11501.  Matrimonial cases are usually assigned to a court room at the Nassau County Supreme Court Matrimonial Center, which is located at 400 County Seat Drive Mineola, New York 11501.  Divorce cases are initiated by purchasing the Index Number at the Nassau County Clerk’s office which is located at 240 Old Country Road Mineola, New York 11501.  All the legal documents on file for the Supreme Court cases become part of the records maintained at the Nassau County Clerk’s office.

At the Nassau County Matrimonial Center a case is assigned to a:   Justice of the Supreme Court; Judicial Hearing Officer; or a Special Referee.  There are mediation services to help aid in resolution of matters to minimize the litigated issues.  There is a Model Custody part at the Nassau County Matrimonial Center specifically designed for child custody and parenting time disputes.  I frequently find myself at the Nassau County Supreme Court, which is less than five miles from my office, whether it is to follow up or appear on one of my cases. Continue reading ›

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In this blog I will attempt to outline some of the elements of common family offenses, which I have seen in my practice as a New York City and Long Island Order of Protection Lawyer.  If a family offense is proven, it usually entitles the victim to an order of protection.  Under the New York Family Court Act, if someone that meets the definition of Family under the Act commits a Family Offense against the other then there should be a finding that a Family Offense has been committed and a decision as to what order of protection, if any, is appropriate among other possible dispositions.  Orders of protection might direct a person to stay away from the protected individuals and/or to refrain from committing certain acts against them, among other things.

At a hearing, facts that are not alleged in the petition, if properly objected to, may be inadmissible to prove that a family offense was committed.  Only relevant, competent and material evidence should be admitted to prove or disprove a family offense.  Each case is different and whether or not a Family Offense was committed and the appropriate action to take if there was an offense, is up to the discretion of the trier of fact or judge in each particular case within certain evidentiary requirements and standards.  Usually Family Offense cases are heard in the New York Family Courts.  They may, however, also be heard in the Supreme Court such as during a divorce case.  Often times the Family Offense case may initially be assigned to a Referee, instead of a judge, who can be given the authority by the consent of the parties to be the judge that decides the case.

Family offenses are enumerated in the New York Family Court Act and are violations and/or crimes under the New York Penal Law.  A family offense proceeding in Family Court or Supreme Court, however, is not a criminal prosecution and thus is usually simply about whether or not an order of protection should be issued.   Again, the following is not a complete list as there are many more acts or crimes enumerated under the law, but the intent is to illustrate of what might constitute some of the more common.  Continue reading ›

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